Learning How To Deal With Frustration. Haven’t we all been there before? It’s funny how easily we can turn from Dr Jekyll to Mr Hyde when frustration sets into our lives, and if it’s not dealt with at the first signs of frustration, we can probably expect more of the same pile up on each other.

You may have explored different strategies and techniques to control your emotions, only to have them fly right out the window when the situation puts you to the test. So the million dollar question is – Why is frustration so @!%#@?#!!  hard to control?

...or you could seek less head throbbing ways to deal with it

Learning How to Deal with Frustration is Really Just Learning More About Yourself.

The first thing we have to accept, is that frustration is a part and parcel of life. If anything, it is a healthy part of life as it forces us to grow, whether we like it or not. Without frustration, creative inventions wouldn’t exist, problems in the world wouldn’t be called to awareness, humans wouldn’t become smarter or more flexible, and we will just die a miserable death of boredom – which in my personal opinion, is without a doubt, the saddest way to go.

The key on how to deal with frustration is to take a step back to see how you can solve the problem that lies ahead.

Frustrating conditions are mere tests that are sent to us cause us to grow and become a better person. The sooner we come to comprehend that the:
“why does this have to happen right now?” is an opportunity for us to nurture our patience; or the
“he/she always doesn’t listen to what I say” is calling for a much needed practice of good communications skills;
the sooner you will be able to make the wiser decisions on how you are going to control the situation.

Knowing that tests come and go, but the tests that are not passed yet will keep returning to haunt you until you get it right.

That’s right, what happens when you fail in driving school? You will have to resit the exams until you get it right, for two reasons:

1. you will be more confident manoeuvring on the road with your skills,

2. for the safety of others – so you don’t kill anyone on the way to the grocery store!

Similarly, in real life situations like applying for work which can be a highly frustrating phase, we are continuously being tested on our perseverance and diligence to push on. If we give in to frustration early on in the application process, we won’t get our foot in the door.

“If we do not see the value of cultivating perseverance and diligence in such a circumstance, then we will get hit with another dose of negative circumstances in the future that will require us to acquire these qualities to move up to the next level in life. So it’s less painful to try and get it right the first time.”

Here are 5 tips to help you understand how frustration can be your friend and not your foe:

Tip 1 – When your first thought is “How to deal with frustration in XYZ”, stop and ask yourself, “Hang on, what is there to be learnt here?” Most of the time we look back in our life and we can connect the dots backwards, this here is to attempt connecting the dots forwards, but being detached with the outcome at the same time.

Tip 2 – Have trust, don’t frust. Trust that you will know what to do, because in the past you have overcome challenges in other areas of your life before. And if you haven’t, that’s fine too. It’s the perfect time to start. Then smile and take the next step forward, knowing that it’s time for you to to grow and be a better person.

Tip 3 – Manage your expectations. Are your expectations even realistic in the first place?? Most expectations are driven by emotions, not logic, and if you’re expecting to come home to your dog for it to start purring like a cat, it’s time to review how you deal and communicate with yourself and others.

Tip 4 – Plan A doesn’t work? Learn from that mistake and have a plan B in place. Plan C. Plan D. Whatever letter in the alphabet you need to make it work, so that you don’t go to ‘Plan Boohoo’, ‘Plan Complain’ and ‘Plan Die’, if ‘Plan Awesome’ falls apart. If anything, you will cultivate some great resourcefulness in your future plannings.

Tip 5 – Evaluate that you’re on the right track. And if you truly believe you are, then plough on even if the going gets tough! You never know how close you are to your goals!

We invite you to be mindful of these tips the next time the brick wall looms intimidatingly near. Remember that your life is in your hands and no one else’s. No matter how challenging the situation is, learning how to deal with frustration will be your golden ticket to success.

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How to have a happy and stress-free life, you say? It’s not as difficult as it seems. The first key is to understand that we all have inner power of the mind and spirit, and that we are in full control of our lives.

I have had the privileged experience of going through so many unfortunate incidences over the years to grow my inner peace and inner capacities, and I’m happy to be able to share it with you who may be seeking the answers to yourself. Below is a great article that I found useful for people who are in the journey of understanding themselves.

We all crave inner peace, but how do we reach it? Will it take years of intense meditation practice to reach inner peace? Will you need to spend hours in weekly yoga classes? Will you need to climb to the top of a Himalayan mountain and seek the counsel of an old wise man to share the ancient secret to inner peace? While your path to expanding inner peace may or may not include meditation, yoga, or spiritual wise men, it will be a unique journey. Discovering inner peace often leads us down a twisty, curvy road. However, if you are ready to step onto that pathway and have greater inner peace, continue reading and discover practical and useful steps that you need to know to get started.

Definition of What Inner Peace Is Not

Let’s begin by gaining a deeper understanding of what inner peace is not. Being able to rule out some false ideas of inner peace may just save you years of frustration. First, inner peace does not mean that you walk around thinking only “positive” thoughts. The mind simply doesn’t work that way, and besides, it is almost impossible to try to control what your mind thinks. In addition, inner peace is not an evened out emotional state where there are no highs or lows.

Inner peace does not show up when everything about your self, life, or the world is perfect. You probably already know that inner peace is not found in food, overeating, or finding some way to escape from your stress or emotions. What you might not realize is that inner peace is also not found at the end of your weight loss goal, or for that matter at the end of any goal.

If you do not experience inner peace with a particular aspect of your current life – whether it be with your body, occupation, partner, home, etc. – you will not gain inner peace by merely losing weight, changing your job or partner, or moving. For example, if you do not cultivate love for you body and life now, it will not suddenly appear when you are thin. A person outside of you does not award inner peace to you because you worked hard enough, attained your goal, achieved the perfect body, or because you have been a “good” boy or girl. In other words, inner peace is not something you can earn.

Definition of What Inner Peace Is

So what is inner peace? Inner peace refers to a state of having enough knowledge to stand strong even in the face of stressful or undesirable life situations. It is an ability to breathe deeply, find center, and regain an internal sense of calm or fortitude during all of life’s experiences. It is the ability to handle situations and conflicts, in life and in ourselves, with acceptance, empathy, and creativity.

Sometimes, inner peace is defined as having a calmness and general freedom from anxiety. However, perhaps more importantly, rather than seeking the absence of negative thoughts, stress, or emotions, inner peace is your ability to accept those thoughts, worry, and feelings when they occur. Then instead of getting stuck in them being able to move beyond them.

Inner peace grows as you remind yourself that you have the capacity to deal with your challenges. You may not know exactly how or when you will reach a desirable outcome to your situation, but you have an inner peace knowing that you will persevere and achieve success. For example, instead of stressing or worrying and then using overeating to calm or avoid dealing with an unpleasant situation or emotions, you would know how to tap into your inner peace and find creative solutions to your problems. Inner peace is your ability to slide back into your own genuine optimism and faith in life and yourself, and to deal with anxiety, stress, or emotions when they occur.

How Do You Gain Inner Peace?

How do you gain inner peace? Attaining inner peace is a ongoing process that evolves, grows, and expands as you place your attention on it. It is an ever-expanding realization that you are safe in the world, that you have the power to create change in your world, and that you are connected to love itself. This inner peace does not happen overnight. It happens gradually throughout your lifetime. First, you deliberately and consciously choose having greater inner peace as your objective, and then you decide to take small daily actions that support your having what you want.

A great working definition of inner peace would be, “I am glad to be alive!” This definition points to the importance and joy of your own life. It is a feeling of wanting to be here on Earth – even through the sad times and the bad times. If you look at your own life right now, you can quickly see where you are in terms of feeling, “It’s great to be me, it’s great to be alive!” Maybe you are way up high on the scale, loving yourself and loving life. Then again, maybe you are way down the scale, depressed, not seeing much point to your life, or even contemplating suicide.

However much or little inner peace you currently have . . . there is more. However, having more requires that you decide that you want to be alive and you want to experience inner peace while you are alive. Making this conscious decision immediately puts you on the path to attaining your desire.

Once you are on your path, begin to notice what comes your way. Notice if you want to spend more time outdoors, or if you are led to reading a certain book. Notice if you are drawn to a certain deep breathing class, if you are tired of talking negatively to yourself, or if you feel a need to fill your life with more plants, living food, or animals. Amazingly, your path to ever expanding inner peace involves something as simple making a decision to have inner peace, then listening to your inner suggestions and following through on your inner nudges. Do this deliberately, everyday, and you will begin to notice the changes that occur within you. Choose inner peace and choose the actions that support inner peace…and watch yourself awakening to a new sense of, “It is good to be alive!”

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Dr. Annette Colby, RD can help you take the pain out of life, turn difficult emotions into joy, release stress, end emotional eating, and move beyond depression into an extraordinary life! Annette is the author of Your Highest Potential and has the unique ability to show you how to spark an amazing relationship with your life! Visit www.LovingMiracles.com [http://www.LovingMiracles.com/] to access hundreds of content filled articles and sign up for a Fr’ee subscription to Loving Miracles! newsletter.

Elena’s Comments:
I found this article to be a great reminder, no matter which part of the journey of self discovery you are on. It provided me with insight and understanding on how to grow my inner peace more, because usually when we are having difficult times, it is easy to forget that we can be easily guided back to finding your centre.

Please comment and share below, any views or thoughts you may have and even some tips that have worked for you…

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How do you cope with life when it hands you uncertainty? Do you run or do you stay and fight?

People who are committed to success take hard hits with grace and wisdom. Watch this video to learn what the strongest of men tell themselves and their comrades when the going gets tough…

I truly think Rocky says it the best: “If you know what you’re worth, then go and get what you’re worth! But you’ve gotta be willing to take the hits!”  Which one is your favourite words of wisdom? How did it change your life? I would love to hear and learn from you too so please share your thoughts and experiences by commenting below.

Here’s an pretty inspirational desktop wallpaper I created. I love this quote, because it reminds me that thinking positive or feeling hopeful is not enough, we have to take action to make things happen.

Feel free to download the wallpaper for your own use, or you can also get a printed version from here: http://www.deviantart.com/print/27409685/?

What do you think of this wallpaper? Are there any quotes on wallpapers or printed cards in the future you would like to see done? Do share your thoughts and feedback in the comment below, thank you!

Many great leaders inspire us to be better people, to take action and make a change in our world. My question is: Why can’t we just BE the person who inspires us? How can I inspire others?

I came across a great article about being the person who inspires you, and thought I’d share it:

Sitting at a table in a canteen not so long ago with a group of life coaches in training after a very revelatory class, I was asked the question “Who inspires you?”

It’s an interesting question, one I would have struggled to pick an answer for some years ago. We had just been talking about the Goliath of a man, Anthony Robins, a man who has done so much work in the field of personal development. A couple of eager students are very taken by him and with good reason.

So what do you look for in a muse, someone who inspires you? And in what way? Inspires you to action towards your dreams, the bigger house, the better job, the more exotic vacation, all of the above? What qualities does this person have? Perhaps it’s an amalgam of various people?

My answer was simple, “Me”. There was silence for a minute. It’s not an answer you hear in everyday conversation, not even from people that you may view as top of the heap. Indeed people that I had previously placed on a dais have turned out to be “not all that”. What this meant to me was that my heroes were made of sand, great now but prone to crumble.

But there is a person that we can create that is impervious to the ravages of time, a person that will always be in our lives, a person who will always make the right decisions and a person on whom we can depend, ourselves. More specifically, our ‘future self’.

We, unlike anything else in this world, CAN CHOOSE WHAT WE WANT TO BE. A giraffe can only become a giraffe, a fish will only ever be a fish it can’t grow up to be a ring tailed lemur. We have the choice to take what we see good in others or what we would like to make better in ourselves and create and work towards being this inspirational person that we choose to be. How exciting is that?

In this day and age where self confidence is one of the highest ranking things that people would like to work on, here is a doorway that allows people to take the first tentative steps towards how they would like to see themselves and for others to see them.

So the next time you are looking for inspiration, to quote a ‘help wanted’ sign from the very funny Earthworm Jim… Help wanted? Apply within.

I am a father of two and I live in Ireland. I have been working in the field of self coaching and personal development since October 2007 and offer the same opportunity to others. Everyone should at least be aware that they have a choice on how they spend their time and generate an income. I can be found at http://www.thepathichoose.com or I would appreciate any comments at my my blog http://adadsuccess.blogspot.com/ Together, we’re better.

Elena’s Comments:
I used to look to others for inspiration to constantly improve myself. I didn’t realise that I was in turn, inspiring others to becoming more like me, until they told me so. So now while I still look towards the great leaders of success and follow in their footsteps, I find myself thirsting to be an inspirational figure towards others.

Who inspires you? How would it make you feel that you can be an inspirational figure to your friends, your family, your community? I would love to hear your thoughts, so please share them in the comment below!

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Knowing that you have inner power is one thing, knowing how inner power works is another. When we learn how to manifest inner power, we are in control of what happens to us and how we react to things. We become more responsible beings for our own actions.

Watch this video as it walks you through an understanding of how to manifest your inner power:

Amazing video…especially the end! Please share your ideas and comment below, would love to know what you think!