Learning How To Deal With Frustration. Haven’t we all been there before? It’s funny how easily we can turn from Dr Jekyll to Mr Hyde when frustration sets into our lives, and if it’s not dealt with at the first signs of frustration, we can probably expect more of the same pile up on each other.
You may have explored different strategies and techniques to control your emotions, only to have them fly right out the window when the situation puts you to the test. So the million dollar question is – Why is frustration so @!%#@?#!! hard to control?
Learning How to Deal with Frustration is Really Just Learning More About Yourself.
The first thing we have to accept, is that frustration is a part and parcel of life. If anything, it is a healthy part of life as it forces us to grow, whether we like it or not. Without frustration, creative inventions wouldn’t exist, problems in the world wouldn’t be called to awareness, humans wouldn’t become smarter or more flexible, and we will just die a miserable death of boredom – which in my personal opinion, is without a doubt, the saddest way to go.
The key on how to deal with frustration is to take a step back to see how you can solve the problem that lies ahead.
Frustrating conditions are mere tests that are sent to us cause us to grow and become a better person. The sooner we come to comprehend that the:
“why does this have to happen right now?” is an opportunity for us to nurture our patience; or the
“he/she always doesn’t listen to what I say” is calling for a much needed practice of good communications skills;
the sooner you will be able to make the wiser decisions on how you are going to control the situation.
Knowing that tests come and go, but the tests that are not passed yet will keep returning to haunt you until you get it right.
That’s right, what happens when you fail in driving school? You will have to resit the exams until you get it right, for two reasons:
1. you will be more confident manoeuvring on the road with your skills,
2. for the safety of others – so you don’t kill anyone on the way to the grocery store!
Similarly, in real life situations like applying for work which can be a highly frustrating phase, we are continuously being tested on our perseverance and diligence to push on. If we give in to frustration early on in the application process, we won’t get our foot in the door.
“If we do not see the value of cultivating perseverance and diligence in such a circumstance, then we will get hit with another dose of negative circumstances in the future that will require us to acquire these qualities to move up to the next level in life. So it’s less painful to try and get it right the first time.”
Here are 5 tips to help you understand how frustration can be your friend and not your foe:
Tip 1 – When your first thought is “How to deal with frustration in XYZ”, stop and ask yourself, “Hang on, what is there to be learnt here?” Most of the time we look back in our life and we can connect the dots backwards, this here is to attempt connecting the dots forwards, but being detached with the outcome at the same time.
Tip 2 – Have trust, don’t frust. Trust that you will know what to do, because in the past you have overcome challenges in other areas of your life before. And if you haven’t, that’s fine too. It’s the perfect time to start. Then smile and take the next step forward, knowing that it’s time for you to to grow and be a better person.
Tip 3 – Manage your expectations. Are your expectations even realistic in the first place?? Most expectations are driven by emotions, not logic, and if you’re expecting to come home to your dog for it to start purring like a cat, it’s time to review how you deal and communicate with yourself and others.
Tip 4 – Plan A doesn’t work? Learn from that mistake and have a plan B in place. Plan C. Plan D. Whatever letter in the alphabet you need to make it work, so that you don’t go to ‘Plan Boohoo’, ‘Plan Complain’ and ‘Plan Die’, if ‘Plan Awesome’ falls apart. If anything, you will cultivate some great resourcefulness in your future plannings.
Tip 5 – Evaluate that you’re on the right track. And if you truly believe you are, then plough on even if the going gets tough! You never know how close you are to your goals!
We invite you to be mindful of these tips the next time the brick wall looms intimidatingly near. Remember that your life is in your hands and no one else’s. No matter how challenging the situation is, learning how to deal with frustration will be your golden ticket to success.
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